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Half Girlfriend – Two in One

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He was the naughtiest kid in class. A permanent smirk played on his lips – almost like his mind was constantly thinking up pranks to play on ‘innocent’ people like the rude teacher, the surly watchman, or the class bullies. He went by the name of ‘Rudie the Rowdie’. His real name? Rudraksh.

She was the reserved, charming, studious girl. Kind-hearted with just a twinkle of mischief in her eyes, she ruled the hearts of many. Though she was popular, she kept to herself and her tight group of friends. No she wasn’t snooty or vain, just shy. Everyone called her by a name she disliked ‘Pari’. Her real name? Aarya.

Incredibly, the two of them were close friends. They had grown up on the same street together and had shared adventures in their childhood that had bonded them for life. Their friends never understood how two such characteristically different people could be friends let alone share a unique friendship.

What was unique was that when they were together, their characteristics and personalities blended. She became more mischievous, and he more considerate. Together they were a lethal combination, unleashing their creative imaginations with bold pranks on the neighourhood, as well as bursting with innovative ideas for school and community events.

Predictably, they were the perfect fodder for gossip. They were always linked to one another by their classmates, and the neighbourhood aunties always speculated about their marriage. However, neither of them entertained such thoughts. For each other, they were simply besties for life.

Time went by and found Rudie pursuing his journalism course in New York while Pari delved into graphic designing. They still continued to chat with each other through mails. Strangely, the distance brought them even closer than before. Every small detail of the day was shared over their daily chat at 9pm. Both looked forward with great anticipation for this coveted time.

Pari mentioned one day about a guy asking her out on a date. She asked Rudie if she should go for it. Rudie said it was her choice entirely. If she felt the guy was good then no harm. Pari decided to give it a shot. She went out and to her surprise enjoyed the date. She told Rudie about all that happened at the date. Rudie listened as she chattered on endlessly about the guy.  It was the first time he cut their chat early citing study pressure as a reason.

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Be a Role Model to your Child – Share the Load

What strikes you the most in these images?

Anything familiar? Maybe something you’ve experienced first-hand or heard from someone? It’s a common story – women are meant to do the housework, and daughters are groomed to believe and adhere to this maxim.

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One of the first home chores I was made to do was – Laundry. Gawd how I detested the mere mention of ‘washing clothes’, still do. I was taught from a young age how to separate the whites from the coloured clothes, the delicate from the rough, the amount of powder to use and the duration to set on the washing machine. I abhorred washing clothes the traditional way – using a bucket, but even using washing machine made me cringe. Doing this did come in handy when I shifted to a hostel for a while – had to face my nemesis – washing clothes in the bucket at that time but survived it somehow.

Thankfully, my parents aren’t the kind of ones who ever said “You need to learn how to wash clothes ‘cause you’ll have to do it after marriage”. Instead I’ve always seen my father helping with household chores whenever possible, especially laundry – he’s a pro at it! 😀

Not many girls are as fortunate as me to have parents who set a good example of sharing the load at home. I’ve heard women complain that their husbands just sit while they clean up the mess in the house, wash the clothes, put them to dry, fold them and keep them in the cupboards afterwards.

I’ve heard mothers rant about how clothes are thrown anywhere, and how their kids constantly ask them “Where is my green sports shirt, where’s my P.T uniform, where have you kept my red dress?” etc.

All this while the husbands are nonchalant about what’s happening around them.

Why is there such disparity in sharing the load at home? A look at statistics conducted by a third party survey for Ariel shows an alarming state of affairs:

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You know what stands out the most from this survey for me?
The fact that 2 out of 3 children think that household chores and washing clothes is a mother’s job. It is well known that children learn from parents. They look up to parents to guide them through life. When they see their mothers alone doing the housework while the father is busy with office work or a personal errand it gives them the message that that’s how it is in the world. This then is what they learn.

Take a look at any of our detergent ads today. How many of them feature men doing household work or promoting a washing powder?

Got you, didn’t it?

So, from real life example to reel life example, children see that women are the ones who do the housework in both real as well as in onscreen.

There has to be a shift in the distribution of housework between partners. Each home has unique situations but there needs to be a basic understanding and acknowledgment when it comes to doing household chores.

HOW YOU CAN SHARE THE LOAD TO REDUCE GENDER PREJUDICE IN GEN NEXT

  • Parents should take account of each other’s availability, energy, and ability to perform household tasks.
  • The chores can be distributed equally between them according to their schedules and preferences.
  • Involve your child in small household tasks – try to make it entertaining and interesting.
  • Impart right values to your child on gender equality, household equality, and appreciation of work done.
  • Watch videos or movies that reinforce supportive family values and equality at home, with your child.
  • Support, acknowledge and appreciate your partner for their help and efforts – there is no stronger valuable example you can set for your child than this.

So, are you all set to share the load and share right family values with your child?

Be a Role Model that your child will follow! Share the Load today!

Imagine if, like this father in the ad below, 20 years down the line you see your daughter doing all the housework while her husband watches the soccer game or your son sitting idle while his wife runs around managing the house. Would you feel good about what you taught them?

It’s not too late to share the load…

I am joining the Ariel #ShareTheLoad campaign at BlogAdda and blogging about the prejudice related to household chores being passed on to the next generation.

PC: envisioningtheamericandream and vintagegaze

 

Cheers,

Venice 🙂

 

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5 Ways to Pamper your Baby’s Skin

Two decades ago, my tiny arms held a small ball of softness – a little cottonball that shrieked, squealed and wriggled with amazing power. That cute cottonball was my little sister.

Once she quieted down and drifted off into a charming sleep, I couldn’t resist smoothing my fingers across her pink, buttery cheeks. Bad move, she started yelling to high heavens again.

Now, she’s all grown up and though her cheeks have outgrown the newborn softness, I still pinch them. Old habits die hard and that sort of thing you know! 😛

Pinching her cheeks takes me back to those memorable days when I would sit beside my mother and watch her dabbing all sorts of oils, creams, and powders on this pink cotton-candy. I still remember the five-point rule my mother had when taking care of cotton’s skin.

5 Ways to Pamper your Baby’s Skin (lessons from my mother):

1. A lukewarm bath: Mother always stressed on the importance of bath water that was of the correct temperature. A lukewarm bath with a sponge was always given to my little sister. I loved assisting, holding her or sponging her at times. Soap was applied when she grew slightly older as the chemicals were not safe for her skin when she was an infant.

2. Regular change of diaper: Since her skin was ultra-soft, long duration of wearing diapers would leave a rash. My parents ensured timely checks and changed the diaper at regular intervals to avoid my sister developing any skin irritation. The softest diapers were used for her delicate skin. Soft cotton nappies were another way to keep her airy, dry and comfortable, unless nature’s call paid a visit; then she would scream freakin’ murder! (kidding) 😉 Even here my parents took great caution and used soft cotton or baby wipes along with lukewarm water to clean her. They avoided rough fabrics, vigorous swipes and rubbing to maintain a rash-free and smooth bottom.

3. Oil massage: A regular coconut oil massage not only helped keep my sister’s limbs supple and strong but also ensured that it retained its smoothness. Sometimes, once a week, a warm oil massage was done for her to keep her skin nourished and moisturised. This was also used for her head to prevent it from drying and flaking. She always chuckled at these times, guessed she must’ve enjoyed the ‘pamper’ing.

4. Trusted brand of talcs and lotions: Well, my parents mostly depended on a trusted baby product brand for keeping the little one’s skin super soft and nice smelling. After every bath, my sister was lightly sprinkled with baby talc. Every night before sleeping, a baby lotion was rubbed all over her before bundling her in a white sheet. This kept her all soft and cuddly!

5. Freshly laundered clothes: Clothes were mostly of soft cotton. These were washed separately in baby detergent and a pint of Dettol for extra protection. The freshly washed clothes were dried completely before draping her in them. Her clothes were changed at periodic intervals so that no clothes rubbed on her skin or caused any irritation. This meant soft, smooth, silky skin!

There were more list of things my parents followed to keep this little bundle soft and cute. The above 5 were followed diligently and I must say, they worked extremely well. Babies as a rule are soft and cuddly, but with these steps, my cottonball of a sister felt just like that – like a little ball of fluffy cotton! 🙂

Pampers too is all about the gentle touch for a happy baby. Pampers brings you the softest ever Pampers Premium Care Pants. Its cotton-like softness is #SoftestForBabySkin and allows it to breathe, thus keeping baby’s skin soft and healthy, and your baby happy.

Here’s a super cute video on Pamper’s Premium Care Pants for your baby:

 

Cheers,
Venice 🙂

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